External Link: “Why Lonely People Stay Lonely”


This article is a fascinating overview of Prof. Megan Knowles‘ paper, “Choking under social pressure: social monitoring among the lonely” (emphasis added):

One long-held theory has been that people become socially isolated because of their poor social skills … this is a fundamental misunderstanding … Lonely people do understand social skills, and often outperform the non-lonely when asked to demonstrate that understanding. It’s just that when they’re in situations when they need those skills the most, they choke.

I’ll be writing a future blog post on how to overcome this social anxiety.