Do you frequently catch yourself saying things like these?
- I don’t have time to date.
- I want to lose weight but I don’t have the time.
- I’m too busy to meet new people.
Unless you are ill, have a short-term work/school deadline, or are caught up in any other debilitating situation, it’s absolutely false that you have no time.
Are you really completely booked 24 hours a day and are powerless to change anything? If the subway train runs unexpectedly late and you lose 30 minutes of your day, are you now unable to live your life because you now have 24 hours, 30 minutes of stuff to do in 24 hours?
If you are chronically busy with work, think about the “flu test”: If you catch the flu – out of no fault of your own – you are pretty much out of action for the next 10 days. Does your company fold without you? Do you get fired from your job? If either of these is true, you need to learn to delegate and/or get a different job. Work should not be needing you 24/7. You work to live, not live to work.
The reality isn’t that you don’t have enough time to do X. It’s that your prioritize X below everything else in your life.
Remember that all your behaviors in life define you.
You might think that you want to lose weight, but if you prioritize it below everything else, guess what? Your behavior says that you don’t really want to lose that weight – no matter what you tell yourself.
When an old acquaintance asks you to meet for lunch and you decline because of “a lack of time”, you are saying that s/he is less important than everything in your life – including watching TV. That’s a bit rude, not to mention that they could have introduced you to their single friends.
The bottom line is that you have time for the important things and important people in your life. Prioritize them.
Until next time my friends, keep dating!